[Today’s podcast was about generosity. You can check it out here]
In college, one of my colleagues was notorious for forgetting his pencil. It was very clear in the way he dressed, his mismatching socks, and disheveled hair that his goal was to do the bare minimum in class to get participation. And usually he would ask me for pencils, since he knew I kept an ungodly amount of pens and pencils in my backpack.
I think it’s interesting to note our respective attitudes in this scenario regarding pencils. If I really just wanted to be prepared, I would keep only a few extra pencils. Not twenty. But in past experiences, I’d personally been in embarrassing situations where no one was willing to give me a pencil. So, out of this fear, I kept many pens and pencils.
So he would ask, and I would give. But I started to notice that when my pencil stash would run low, I was more hesitant to give him a pencil. In fact, sometimes I would lie that I didn’t have an extra, so that my own anxiety could be quelled. Needless to say, neither of us were happy in this situation.
I had developed a relationship with my irrational fear of pencils, and my colleague developed an unspoken trust with me of providing. The more pencils I had, the more comfortable I was with giving him a pencil. But as that stash dwindled, so did our weird relationship. Basically, the less I had, the less willing I was to give him a pencil.
Eventually, he moved to another part of the class where he continued his cycle of “pen-handling.” I thought I was being generous, but in reality I felt bad for him. We aren’t able to freely give if we think we don’t have enough.
You know at least one person in your own life who has shied away from donating because they say they don’t have enough. They usually say things like, “Once I become rich, then I’ll have extra money to donate!” But riches come from an abundant mindset. Let me ask you this: how will you ever become rich, if you operate from a poor and lacking mindset?
This week’s anonymous question was submitted by luvalaf. If you’d like to submit a question, you can find the page here.
A: What makes procrastination so difficult is that most of us would rather do nothing than work. NOTHING! Now add in cat videos on YouTube, checking Groupon deals in email, and a myriad of other social media options and it seems like all hope is lost. But, the important thing to remember is that procrastination is a habit, and habits are difficult yet very possible to change, and all change begins from within. Make the commitment to yourself to improve your life, and make small adjustments daily and good things will follow. Why not start today? 😉
I failed an exam pretty badly last year, so this year I changed it up a bit. I decided that I would ace every single exam by doing study groups with people. Teachers always recommend study groups, but they don’t tell you that all the one’s that get A’s are hiding away in their basements, studying themselves; and the material. So instead, you get stuck with studying with hollywood wanna-be’s and straight-C students. Like this one time, I decided to do a study group for an exam with some Asian kids. The professor recommended doing the study guide before the exam day, but procrastination recommended I do it tomorrow to keep the material “fresh.” In the middle of studying, one of my Middle-eastern friends decided to put on her headphones and listen to music (In case you were wondering, Middle-Eastern is also Asian, like Russians are Asian…you racist). The music was so loud, we could hear it through her headphones, and she even sang along with the lyrics! People looked at us in the study center with huge open eyes. I couldn’t tell if she was just bad at singing, or if it was just the foreign lyrics. We kept telling her to shut up her miserable American Idol audition, but she refused by calling us racists. I did not understand how telling her to shut up her ethnic singing in a quiet area is a suppression of her culture.
We all felt hopeless about this exam, and mentally checked out long ago. My friend decided that the best time to learn about her people would be…now. She proceeded to take out her smart-phone, and started teaching us random facts about her people. I was annoyed at her until she read me a fact that stated her ethnic group is almost extinct.
Did Darwinism take over because her ancestors pissed off the neighbors by singing cultural songs all day? I’m sorry you just realized that you don’t have a bubble on the National Census sheet, but we have an EXAM in an hour. I don’t care if I pass with a C, but afterwards I have to go work on my screenplays to submit to Hollywood!